I admit it. I am a tiny bit competitive.
Not in a sports sense. No, not at all in that sense.
But in a I want to kick ass at everything I do sort of way – yes.
There are times when I suck at things…don’t get me wrong. I am not trying to brag (but feel free to heap praise upon me – I love that.)
But my general tendency is to want to do things right. Or at least as right as I can.
One of my many many issues with my evolution into a newly minted divorcee is that I have no idea how to do it right. I want to be the best at getting divorced. Even though I kind of want nothing to do with getting divorced. Hear me?
But the dilemma is – what are the guidelines? How much strength implies indifference? How much cooperation implies doormat status? Where is the line between sticking up for yourself and being an insufferable shrew? How much are you allowed to whine about how UNFAIR and AWFUL it all is before people start setting up those fake “emergency” calls to get out of talking to you?
So I have decided to take the proverbial bull by the horns and build a rubric that defines what the parameters are for success.
(Do you know what a rubric is? I didn’t until I had two kids go through elementary school – where they use the term freely and without definition. Luckily, they said it enough times and showed examples- so now I do- and now you will. So not only do I kick ASS at the divorce thing, I am also an excellent source of information.)